Dear Unhappy Partner Who Needs Me,
I had a horrible childhood too. So after both of us focusing only on your needs all this time, it is now my turn to have my partner (that would be you) focus only on my needs, while I, also, focus only on my needs. Did I mention I endured a horrible childhood?
Also, I can’t be expected to think about your needs or control my behaviour, since my terrible childhood damaged me, so you have to forgive me for anything I do or say to you. I can’t help it when life and people are upsetting me. Did I mention I endured a horrible childhood?
You should not get angry at me. You should not do anything that upsets me. You should feel sorry for me, forgive me, and do whatever you can to help me. Did I mention I endured a horrible childhood?
I know you’ll understand how it is, since the situation for you has been exactly the same all this time. And I know you’ll want to be fair and take turns because you love me and want to help heal my wounded inner child, just as I love you and have tried to help heal your wounded inner child. I realize you might be wondering what can be done to help YOU, during my turn while we both focus on ME. I don’t know offhand. What was done to help ME during all this time while we both focused on YOU? I’m trying to think, but at the moment I just can’t remember. Probably you can come up with ideas for yourself. I believe in you. Obviously, you will want to make sure nothing takes your time, focus, resources and help away from me while it’s my turn. I know you’ll want to be just as devoted and giving to me as I have been to you.
Thank you in advance for understanding and being a fair and good, decent, loving partner,
Me
P.S. We have both focused exclusively on your needs and I have forgiven everything you’ve done to me for ___ years, so my turn will now last the same number of years.
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