Author: happyologist
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PANNING FOR GOLD
Sometimes I think the hard experiences in life are like panning for gold. You can pick out and save the valuable insights and lessons you learn from the experience, and once that’s done, toss out the mud and never think about it again.
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I AM PROUD OF YOU, BEAUTIFUL SOUL
In the desert of your childhood, you were a flower, Lovely and strong. The darkness in the family around you Never completely put out your light. People hurt you and took from you, But you transcended their level, And gave kindness to the world. Often, you walked alone with no help on your journey, And…
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WHY WE NEED A SECRET MISCHIEF CLUB
Yesterday I did something I rarely do anymore. I talked about sad things from my childhood. I was explaining to a fellow writer how my childhood patterns led me to get into two bad marriages. I told her a few of my earliest memories. Her reaction was intense. One of the things she asked me…
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The Perfectly Reasonable, Innocent (Mwah ha ha) Announcement That Will Annoy Your Toxic Partner
Dear Unhappy Partner Who Needs Me, I had a horrible childhood too. So after both of us focusing only on your needs all this time, it is now my turn to have my partner (that would be you) focus only on my needs, while I, also, focus only on my needs. Did I mention I…
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The Perfectly Reasonable, Innocent (Mwah ha ha) Announcement That Will Annoy Your Toxic Parent
If we have spent a lifetime caring about our dysfunctional, self-absorbed parents and ignoring our own needs & emotions, it would be completely fair to stop worrying about them and just focus on our own happiness, RIGHT? You know, sort of like, “It’s my turn now.” Oooo! Wouldn’t that be a fun announcement! “Dear Mum…
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How to Have Fun by Cheerfully Agreeing With Toxic People When They Try to Make You Feel Bad About Yourself
How to Have Fun by Cheerfully Agreeing With Toxic People When They Try to Make You Feel Bad About Yourself So often, toxic people want to make us feel bad about ourselves. Sometimes they act very sweet as they give us advice on how to improve ourselves. (Those passive-aggressive mofo’s.) Or they deliver long, sanctimonious,…
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FAUX ENLIGHTENMENT IS BEGINNING TO PISS ME OFF
I’m seeing ever more clearly that there is an enormous hole in the New Age world. I see this huge hole even in the actions of spiritual life coaches and writers. Here are just two of many examples I could give you: EXAMPLE #1 A while ago I asked an “enlightened” (meditates, reads and quotes…
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How Romance Novels Train Women to Tolerate Rudeness and Abuse from Brooding Bad Guys
The full title I wanted for this rant was too long to fit into a box so I’ve made it the first paragraph instead: Romance novels train women to tolerate rudeness and abuse from Brooding Bad Guys, then date them, and then try to “fix” them and make them happy, all while sacrificing their own…
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Realizing How Many Shitty People Have Been Shitty To Me All My Life But Choosing To Feel Happy Because They’re GONE And I Am FREE.
From 2019 Does this ever happen to you? I had a moment today where I suddenly saw so clearly in my mind, all the people throughout my life who were cruel to me, used me, lied to me, took advantage, took for granted, mocked, manipulated, abused me, and wanted to imagine the worst in me. …