I had this epiphany, or maybe more of an observation, recently. Among my “real life” friends there are three women who work very hard in their jobs and keep their homes clean with the kind of perfectionism our grandmothers had. You know, cleanliness is next to godliness.
I have heard these women talking about working hard, being exhausted, and never having time or money, so often over the years.
I feel like there might be a soundtrack in their heads like the one I used to have in mine, put there by my father and grandmother years ago. The one that tells us if we don’t struggle and work hard all the time, and save all our money, this means we are weak and lazy and lacking in character. The one that frightens us with scenarios of being shamed and banished from our family and friends if anyone were ever to discover we spent a day in our pyjamas reading a good novel, eating cookies, while dirty dishes sat in the sink.
But…. part of my epiphany went like this…. after growing up assuming this is the correct way for a person to be good and virtuous and worthy of admiration….
WHAT IF this is wrong?
OR…. what if it is neither right nor wrong… but is just ONE WAY of looking at life?
Suppose there is a completely different value system that goes like this….
We are spiritually obligated to do something with our lives that makes the world a better place for others.
What if it goes on to say….
It is shallow and selfish to spend our lives working to be comfortable, have a nice spotless house, and accumulate money and possessions instead of using our time and talents to learn, to make life better for others, and to do something deep and meaningful.
OR….WHAT IF…..
Toiling to make money and have a floor so clean you can eat off it, is not wrong or shallow. It is just a PREFERENCE. AND using your life to make the world a better place while often ignoring the dust in your home which only affects you anyway, is also not wrong. It is just a PREFERENCE.
Maybe we all need to stop measuring and judging ourselves and others by either value system.
Part Two of my epiphany and observation went something like this…
According to Law of Attraction, we attract or manifest in our lives the things we talk about and focus on. If a person grows up in a family where adults value hard work, money, security, saving in case of emergencies, being busy all the time, being perfect, having a floor you can eat off of, having people think you are virtuously hardworking, respectable, and super neat and clean all the time, and these adults pride themselves on being strong and disciplined throughout the endless hardships of life…. will this person grow up thinking the same way consciously or subconsciously…. and how will this affect Law of Attraction?
Then, I thought about people I have known a while. I wondered if there is a correlation between the two different value systems and the amount of hardship and struggle, among them.
Maybe I am seeing the answer I want to see, but it does seem like the more relaxed people who focus on …. well… anything besides hardship and struggle, tend to have better luck and more opportunities come their way. Some of them have demanding jobs, or simple lives and not much money, but they are happy and do fun things and the big difference is that they do NOT talk about working hard, lack, worry, and being tired. Sometimes money comes to them unexpectedly. They always seem to have enough, and some have a LOT. Meanwhile, the people who talk about hardship, money fears, and being exhausted all the time, and continually strive for perfection, seem to have bad luck, can never get a break, or get ahead, and they seem tense often. Instead of opportunities, cool synchronicity and unexpected money, their lives seem to have frequent crises.
What if we all had a core belief or soundtrack in our subconscious that helped Law of Attraction make life easier for us? What if we never invest our thoughts and energy into hardship, lack, and struggle?
So I propose a new value or belief, to replace the old soundtracks. Here is an affirmation to read out loud every day, to replace the old junk and reprogram your subconscious.
MY LIFE IS EASY
My life flows easily and happily.
Good things happen to me all the time.
I am surrounded by people who understand me and love me for who I am.
People accept me as I am.
People value, respect and enjoy many things about me.
I feel happy about myself.
I am a good person, valuable in my own unique way.
I always have more money than I need.
Money comes to me in easy, unexpected ways.
The Universe brings me all the money and help I need in order to do the work I am meant to do.
The important work I am meant to do comes easily and naturally to me, and is something I love and enjoy.
The Universe arranges everything in my life to make it easy and fun to do my Right Work.
It is easy and natural to use my talents to contribute important things to the world, and I am very effective in a short amount of time.
I keep my home exactly the way it makes me feel uplifted. It is quick and easy for me to do this.
I always have a lot of time to be healthy, get rest, play, learn and explore, think, keep my vibrations high, enjoy time with my loved ones, and recharge.
I feel DEEP joy, peace, and gratitude for this.
My life is easy and happy.
My day is magically productive, easy and fun.
Everything always works out in the best way for me.
Life flows easily and beautifully for me.
There is a lot of free time and fun in my life.
My life is full of joy.
I am filled with light and joy today.
The Universe helps me live a life of joy and add joy to others’ lives.
What would happen if you repeated this affirmation out loud every morning for one year? It would be fun to find out.
[Interesting note: I wrote the above in 2018. About a year later, I discovered the amazing book by Julia Rogers Hamrick, “Choosing Easy World.” I came across it while I was searching online for a completely different book. (Cue mystical music! I believe the affirmation paved the way for this book to cross my path.) Hamrick’s entire book is about the fact that we can live easier lives, and she explains how to manifest this. I encourage everyone to read her book.]
My life steadily became easier after I started speaking this affirmation in 2018, and even easier after I incorporated Hamrick’s advice. First, I added these sentences to the affirmation:
“The Universe makes my life so easy.
The Universe gives me exactly everything I need and want.”
At the time, I did not realize just how powerfully this would affect my life.
Things have really flowed easily since then. I never realized how, in the back of my mind, I have grown up expecting so many aspects of life to be hard. I see now that I absorbed this life view from my parents.
I feel like I’ve nearly completely replaced this unconscious attraction of hardship since writing my Life Is Easy affirmation and discovering Hamrick’s book.
There’s a little mantra in the book –one sentence– that my daughter and I began saying out loud every day as soon as I discovered it. It works!
“I choose to live in Easy World, where everything is easy and I watch the magic unfold.”
A week later, we made up our own mantra, which combines the Easy World concept but is more direct. I believe it feels more real and in the present moment to say “my day” or “today” instead of “life” and to say “my life (or day) is” instead of “I choose to live in.” The word “Life” is good in affirmations/visualizations, but “day” feels more intense.
Our Easy World mantra:
“My day is easy and magically productive.
Today is beautiful and happy for me.”
My daughter is a more “practical” person than I am, so it says a LOT that she spoke it out loud to herself the very first day we wrote it. The effect was magical. She was in a GREAT mood the whole day. It was a floaty, happy day for both of us and we still remember it. Things happened that day and since, that have made our life easier. Our life now, compared to then, is better and easier in profound ways.
Now that I have been speaking the My Life is Easy affirmation and our Easy World mantra every day for a few years, I can FEEL a change in my beliefs about life. It has gone beyond speaking the words and is now part of how I truly feel deep down. Even my dreams have changed. They feel lighter, happier. The “storylines” in my dreams involve happy things and people who are kind. Even the settings of my dreams have changed; the houses are nicer! It’s wild.
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